Ponderings (July 2009) - “CONTROL”

According to Merriam-Webster's Dictionary …

Control is “to exercise restraining or directing influence over: regulate; to have power over, rule”

Sharing my thoughts …

I used to believe I was in control; but, the events of this year have shattered that illusion.  The only thing I have control over is my thoughts and emotions; my response to the situation.  If I allow my emotions and thoughts to run rampant they end up controlling me and I become more stressed with a weakened ability to think clearly.  However, if I observe my thoughts and emotions without judgment, giving them room to breathe, then I can let them go.  They no longer control me and I gain clarity of thought enabling me to choose a healthier response.  This is not always easy; but, I’ve found that when I go through this process I experience a sense of calm and acceptance regarding the situation which empowers me to choose an appropriate course of action.  

How do you handle loss of control?

Questions to ponder …

1. How do you view control?
2. When is it important to have control?
3. When is having control just an illusion?
4. How do you feel when you try to control someone?  How do they respond?
5. How do you feel when someone tries to control you?  How do you respond?
6. When was the last time you felt you had control of a situation?  How did it feel?
7. When was the last time you felt you lost control of a situation?  How did it feel?
8. When something unexpected happens, how do you control your thoughts and emotions?

Related quotes …

You can't always control the wind, but you can control your sails.  [Anthony Robbins]

The closest to being in control we will ever be is in that moment that we realize we’re not.  [Brian Kessler]

You have no control over what the other guy does.  You only have control over what you do.  [A J Kitt]

Control is never achieved when sought after directly. It is the surprising outcome of letting go.  [James Arthur Ray]